Each Mother's Day looks pretty much the same: gathering with other Christians to worship, going to lunch, opening homemade cards and sweet gifts... and the splendid absence of cooking or dishes.
Last year I was a mess of tears and disappointment. My expectations of enjoying the children's adoration and sweet submission were simply not fulfilled. That was a rough wake-up call, but a necessary one, and not just for mother's day. I learned that in order to be a truly servant-spirited mother, there IS no such thing as having the day off. Or having a day that's All About Me. Motherhood is never about me. It can't be about me. I learned that my lofty expectations for praise and honor had dug themselves a deep little root of idolatry, and when harvest time came and I was met with disappointment, I saw the situation as God did. He's merciful to let us see our sin clearly.
This year I'm trying to embrace a different perspective. With God's help,
- I am taking more time to reflect on God's good & perfect gift of my own mother. She's amazing and she doesn't even know it.
- I put more thought, care, and love into gift-giving.
- I will gladly take opportunities to serve my children, and not expect the reverse.
- I will tell them how much I love them and praise God for them, and not expect the reverse. I would not BE a mother if not for them.
- I will keep fighting against the lie that society keeps trying to feed me: that a truly beautiful woman will look as though she never had children. I will not neglect good health practices, but I will not resent the way that God's gift of children has changed my body.
- I will express my thankfulness to my husband for his support and love. Again...wouldn't BE a mother if not for him!
- I will pray extra for my girls, and for my own growth in godliness.
- I have expressed my admiration and love for my husband's mother, who defies all mother-in-law stereotypes with her grace and wisdom.
- I will take the time to communicate my thanks and love to my beautiful birth mother, one of the most selfless people I've ever known.
- I will relish this gift of motherhood, and this particular season of motherhod, remembering how quickly the time passes. I'll be thankful, because God is so good. So good.